I can't answer a lot of those questions directly.

As you may know, the posterface of the Tory were upperclassmen with fancy wigs, puffy clothes, etc. Many of those were targeted by some more unruly revolutionaries (punks, not soldiers ... tar and feather mobs and the like). As a result, during the war many of the richer ones moved to or took vacations back to Britain or cities that were primarily Britain-loyal or under control of Her Majesty's troops.

I can't remember any instance of a loyalist being formally prosecuted post-war. Though, like I said, there was enough vigilante punishment tarring+feathering, vandalism, and general harrasment in some areas to trigger migration.