The reason that I ask this is since I am Dutch (sorry for my English in advance), so we get to hear and read a lot about those Jews hiding in Dutch houses, and we get told that we have to be so proud. But when you now hear about wars happening right now, a lot of cases are known that the people who have to be hid have to suffer from abuse . The Jews had to listen to their helpers , otherwise they would die. Are there cases known where that led to abuse? I once read something about a man abusing the daughter of a Jewish family that hid in his house, and that the parents had to accept the situation because otherwise the man would throw them out.
So, was the situation really that beautiful or are there also some black pages?
Thanks in advance for answering
This is an issue that was taboo for a long time and it is only comparatively recently that academics (mostly female) have started studying sexual violence against women during WWII in any kind of sustained or thorough manner. Such research, which is often carried out initially by sociologists or pyschologists, is sometimes dismissed by some historians because there are hardly any "hard" data available and most of it is based on oral testimonies of survivors.
In any situation where the balance of power is skewed to the extent it was in the case of hidden Jews and their protectors, there is potential for abuse. The most vulnerable victims were, as they always are, children. They are also the ones most likely to have survived until the topic became open for discussion in the last few decades.
In the Netherlands and Belgium it is only from the nineties onwards that former hidden children have found the courage to speak out, albeit often anonymously. Jolande Withuis seems to be the main researcher on this topic in the Netherlands, but sadly most of her work was published in the nineties in the hard-to-find journal ICODO-Info of the Informatie- en Coördinatieorgaan Dienstverlening Oorlogsgetroffenen (now COGIS). In 2006 Nele De Clercq studied taped interviews with forty former hidden Belgian Jewish children for her Master's thesis. Three of them had been (or admitted to having been) sexually abused. Most of the abuse took place in orphanages and boarding schools, not in individual family settings. Sexual (as well as physical) abuse is mentioned in passing in several Dutch books on hidden Jewish children such as Annelies van Rens' Vervolgd in Limburg: Joden en Sinti in Nederlands-Limburg tijdens de Tweede Wereldoorlog (2013) and Alex Bakker's 'Dag pap, tot morgen!': De kinderen uit de joodse crèche (2005). That is all I have been able to find so far on the topic of sexual abuse of "onderderduikers" (hidden people) in the low countries. The literature on sexual abuse of Jewish women in concentration camps and ghettos in Germany and Eastern Europe, as well as among partisans and at the Eastern Front is more substantial.