I can answer the second part of the question, although anecdotal evidence is not allowed by the rules, but I don't know how one would answer this question in an other way.

There are parts on cemeteries dedicated for soldiers fallen in WWI and II, as well as for civilian casualties. Often times there is also a memorial for the victims of the nazis near the soldiers graves.

I have been to some funerals of elderly people and it really depends. The speech is most times held by a priest, who asks the relatives about the life of the deceased. It depends on them how extensively the war is covered. For my granddad it was nothing more then "after school he was drafted for war from which he returned in 1945 to help on his parents farm", but I've also heard of more detailed explanations (eastern front, saved life of his comrades [Kamerad, not Genosse], was injured, ...), but the people who have been in the war and are dying now mostly were in their early twenties and had a long and successful (Wirtschaftswunder) life afterwards, so the war seems very distant and with 60 years without military engagement it is not very present in the german society