I am a white male who has ancestors who fought for the Confederacy. I also have a black girlfriend. We were at a former plantation and there was this huge and elaborate Celtic cross like tombstone for a slave simply called "Nanna" or something similar to that. We been thinking about this and I've been wondering about the relationship between master and slave. I have read things about how some Southern women had the slaves breastfeed their children. How complicated and intimate was the relationship between master and slave? Was it just tyrannical or pseudo-parental and patronizing?