I wrote this comment the other day, which points back to another comment I answered not long before that.

No, they did not forget. Many of them had their land taken away from them, which was then awarded to Patriot soldiers in lieu of monetary compensation:

"[T]he revolutionary leaders turned to the expedient of confiscation. From the very first some of the patriots, without doubt, had an eye on Loyalist property; and when the coffers of the Continental Congress had been emptied, the idea gained ground that the Revolution might be financed by the confiscation of Loyalist estates. Late in 1777 the plan was embodied in a resolution of the Continental Congress, and the states were recommended to invest the proceeds in continental loan certificates. The idea proved very popular; and in spite of a great deal of corruption in connection with the sale and transfer of the land, large sums found their way as a result into the state exchequers. In New York alone over 3,600,000 worth of property was acquired by the state."

This led some 40,000+ Loyalists to resettle in Canada where the British government would pay out with free Canadian land if you could prove your loyalty to the crown during the war.

Others went to the Caribbean, but most stayed put in the United States. It wasn't uncommon for a Loyalist to end up losing all they had and moving back in with their parents (or a sibling or another relative) while they earned enough money farming on someone else's land to buy a new farm of their own.

The worst Loyalists/Tories, however, were not welcome home after the war and were forced to leave, sometimes under threat of mob justice.

Life, in general, was pretty miserable for everyone in the new U.S. for a while. There was a long economic depression. One reaction to all of this was the "Second Great Awakening", when people turned to religion for hope. This was when the Methodist and Baptist faiths really took off in America.

Here's a collection of letters written by a Loyalist and gives insight into his life after the Revolution was over and he was exiled from the United States.

And here are a couple of works of fiction (1, 2) that feature Loyalists as part of the plot. Both were written in the post-war period and give a little more insight into how Loyalists were treated both during and after the war.