Specifically I'm interested in situations like those faced by Thomas Mifflin (first territorial governor of Pennsylvania and signer of the declaration) who was effectively excommunicated for his involvement in the war.
Richard Waln was a wealthy Quaker merchant who moved from Philadelphia to Freehold, NJ in 1774 when he heard rumors of possible war. According to Revolutionary War News NJ, after war broke out he was classified as a Tory and arrested in 1777 because he would not take sides. He was then given three choices. He could go to jail, "take the test" which meant swear allegiance to the (new) government, or he could go "within the English lines." He chose the latter and went to New York.
It seems he was allowed to visit his home a few times before the war was over, but the running of the farm was mostly left to his wife. He returned home in 1778 and was arrested again. He petitioned the governor and was allowed to remain in his home on the promise of being a good subject. He then got to work as an abolitionist.