"Around 13 million Germans served in the Army during World War II. It is estimated that 3.5 million were killed."
In regards to your second point, In June 1953 the Statistics and Accounting Branch published Army Battle Casualties and Nonbattle Deaths in World War II, Final Report 7 December 1941-31 December 1946, the most accurate report regarding U.S. Army casualties during WWII;
| Line | Statistic | Number |
|---|---|---|
| 1 | Total [c] | 936,259 |
| 2 | Deaths among battle casualties | 234,874 |
| 3 | Killed in action [d] | 192,798 |
| 4 | Of those listed as killed in action; died of wounds and injuries [e] | 26,762 |
| 5 | Of those listed as killed in action; declared dead | 6,058 |
| 6 | Of those listed as killed in action; died of other causes (non-battle) [f] | 9,256 |
| 7 | Other battle casualties [g] | 701,385 |
| 8 | Of those listed as killed in action; killed in action | 189,696 |
| 9 | Wounded and injured in action | 592,170 |
| 10 | Of those wounded and injured in action, died of wounds and injuries overseas | 26,225 |
| 11 | Of those wounded and injured in action, returned to duty overseas | 383,196 |
| 12 | Of those wounded and injured in action, evacuated to the United States | 182,749 |
| 13 | Of those wounded and injured in action, died of wounds and injuries after being evacuated to the United States | 84 |
| 14 | Of those wounded and injured in action, returned to duty, discharged, etc. | 182,665 |
| 15 | Captured and interned | 124,079 |
| 16 | Of those captured and interned, killed in action | 3,102 |
| 17 | Of those captured and interned, died of wounds and injuries | 453 |
| 18 | Of those captured and interned, died of other causes (non-battle) | 9,098 |
| 19 | Of those captured and interned, returned to military control | 111,426 |
| 20 | Missing in action | 30,314 |
| 21 | Of those missing in action, declared dead | 6,058 |
| 22 | Of those missing in action, died of other causes (non-battle) | 158 |
| 23 | Of those missing in action, returned to duty | 24,098 |