Hi there, I got asked by a member of family what I would want for Christmas, and being the dork that I am, I am thinking of asking for a biography of Wellesley. What better place to ask that than here? What would be a good biography for me to pick up?

What I am looking for in this biography:

I am not really looking for a glorified, almost pornographic, detailing of his greatest military accomplishments down to individual troop movements. If I wanted to find that, I am sure I could pick up any old book on the Napoleonic Wars and the Hundred Days and find that there. I more want to get to understand the life and personality of the man who is only really spoken about for his military accomplishments and brief time at the forefront of British politics.

If possible, I want it to cover his pre-military life. I would like to get an understanding for Wellesley's personality and how it shifted as he aged, shedding light into how conflict changed him as a person. I would like to know what interests he pursued outside of his careers in the military and politics, and how successful he was at them. His personal relationships with those around him would be valuable, as well as information about how he perceived contemporaries of his era. A book which provides a good, deep dive into any letters and archives from his life would be interesting, as that would shed a lot of light onto the life around him which I was not yet aware of. What made him happy? Which events in his life had a deep personal impact on him?

A book which explores these ideas would be incredibly interesting. Incidentally, is there a historiography of Wellesley that I should be aware of when looking into biographies of him? If so, could you make me aware of it, and if possible, recommend any texts which explore and contrast the differing viewpoints in the area?