Your assessment of attitudes towards sex throughout time is a little basic and there also isn't one answer to your question because of how many cultures/time periods are involved. I recommend checking out these FAQs

Gender and Sexuality

Sex in and out of marriage

Matriarchy, patriarchy and women's rights

These answers in particular are relevant:

I'm a twentysomething flapper in 1920s New York City, and I'm interested in hooking up with a man for casual sex. How difficult is it to find a willing partner, and how do I go about it? What are my options for contraception, how difficult are they to obtain and how effective are they generally? by /u/kosmic_osmo and /u/Georgy_K_Zhukov

Zhukov also talked about the sexual exploitation of black male slaves by white women

I am a hot-blooded young British woman the Victorian era hitting the streets of Manchester for a night out with my fellow ladies and I've got a shilling burning a hole in my purse. What kind of vice and wanton pleasures are available to me? by /u/mikedash

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