This is an incredibly broad query, covering 60 years, two sexes, work, family and leisure, and a myriad of very different experiences – not to mention, potentially, a whole world of different locations. It would be hard to write a detailed answer that incorporated all of these, but, while you wait for other responses to your question, I did address the issue of the contrasting leisure expectations and experiences of middle-glass and working class girls in England, mostly around the year 1880, in an earlier response which might interest you:

I am a hot-blooded young British woman the Victorian era hitting the streets of Manchester for a night out with my fellow ladies and I've got a shilling burning a hole in my purse. What kind of vice and wanton pleasures are available to me?