If you’re asking whether men in the 1800s tended to love and respect their wives, the answer is yes! The 1800s were, in many ways, not that different from now. For the most part, people married for love (unless you were noble or loaded or needed to get married for some other reason).
If you’re asking whether husbands would be considered to respect their wives by modern standards...well, that depends.
Marriage in the 1800s was a lot like the 1950s. Women were expected to be domestically skilled (housekeeping, child rearing, and household finance management), moral/religious, and supportive. Their “sphere” was anything inside the home, and men’s was anything outside the home. Men (and women) viewed this role of homemaker as important to society, because it created the next generation and was a respite for men from the stresses of working life. Women who filled this role and had these qualities were well-respected in society and by their partners.
Obviously, not all women and men relished being pigeonholed into these roles! Women who were NOT domestic met with a lot of friction, from both men and other women. Just like today, someone who didn’t show the respected values of the time had a more difficult path. Women who were solitary, plain, clumsy, disliked kids, or were too smart/political were looked at as a little odd. (Queen Victoria herself, paragon of all things domestic, hated being pregnant and disliked babies. Unsurprisingly no one outside of her family really knew this about her until she’d been dead for awhile. It would’ve been a PR nightmare if it had gotten out while she was alive.) Men who liked “girly things” or were unduly sensitive or who were bad at business/working were also seen as unusual. Not a lot has changed since then! Obviously it’s not as extreme now and more variation is accepted, but a lot of the same values have stuck around.
The book “Inside the Victorian Home: A Portrait if Domestic Life in Victorian England” by Judith Flanders has a lot about marriage in the 1800s and what it was like.