My (35F) husband (45M) and I have had a pretty difficult road to happiness. He started pursuing me while he was still married, but he was really serious about our relationship – it took seven years for their divorce to go through, but it definitely wasn’t for lack of trying on his part! Not only did he have to break things off with his first wife, he went through some major shifts in his way of living and was forced to choose between making a new, happy life with me and keeping ties to the Pope, Catholic countries/people, and his ex-wife’s powerful family. His life is definitely better now, though, and I think a lot of those people weren’t good for him anyway. We share so many interests and a lot of passion!

But things have been kind of rocky. I’ve never been able to get on with his daughter from his first marriage, for one thing. Probably not too hard to guess why. A lot of people who don’t even know us are badmouthing me all the time, and blaming me for everything unfortunate that happens in the kingdom. I’ve had several miscarriages, which really troubles my husband as he’s always wanted a son. (Don’t get me wrong, he loves our daughter, who is just like a little version of him.) And lately I’ve noticed him looking at and flirting with my ladies in waiting – one in particular – which has led me to lose my temper and instigate some knock-down drag-out fights.

It’s just all so stressful. But my husband is really ticked off with me, and there’s definitely something going on with some of his councillors – I’ll come up to them talking quietly and then they all shut up when I get close. AITA? Am I being too hard on him?