https://www.reddit.com/r/AskHistorians/comments/fkeceg/how_did_the_victorians_reconcile_their/ This thread links answers by /u/mimicofmodes, /u/amp1212 and /u/sunagainstgold that come at it from the other direction but should hopefully help explain things. Obviously there's a lot that could be said about this and this isn't precluding further answers.