For historical works, you're first and probably only stop for a general overview is Etcheson's Bleeding Kansas: Contested Liberty in the Civil War Era. The other common books cited are either not really about Kansas so much as its role in national politics (Rawley's Race and Politics) or old and iffy stuff written by a non-historian that got cited mostly because no one else could be asked to write a survey. (This is Alice Nichols' Bleeding Kansas.) 100% not worth it for a general reader. None of these are military histories. I don't think there is a general history of Bleeding Kansas with a specific military focus because, well, there's precious little military going on there and the sorts of historians most likely to be interested have a rather large distraction starting in 1861.

For deeper dives into daily life, it would probably be worth a look at Sara Robinson's book written at the time. She wants you to think it was written strictly contemporaneously but at least significant parts were written after the fact and aimed at generating support and cash for the antislavery cause. This is also true, somewhat more explicitly, of William Addison Phillips' The Conquest of Kansas by Missouri and her Allies but he's much more focused on the big events. If you get into reading Bleeding Kansas closely, it's worth noting that the William Phillips who is then a reporter for the New York Tribune and also wrote the above is not the same William Phillips who is lynched in Leavenworth and later shot dead. He was too busy being dead to manage all the stuff the other Phillips did after that point.