I often hear the argument that every single German soldier was a Jew hating facist because Rommel once refused a order and he got a way with it and therefore any WW2 soldier could easily refuse to fight and get away with it

I think that one of the most successful generals may get away with more than a simple private ....

What's reality?

I am a German boi in the 40s and I get the order to fight but I refuse to.... What happens next

Is it the same thing if I already enlisted and I refuse to execute civilians?