If you're interested in the history of women in the Song Dynasty, I definitely recommend Patricia Buckley Ebrey's The Inner Quarters: Marriage and the Lives of Chinese Women in the Sung Period and Priscilla Ching Chung's Palace Women in the Northern Sung 960-1126. While these both focus on the lives of women at the higher end of Song society, they provide lots of insights about women's role in navigating marriage and sexual relationships as well as looking at things like the education of women. Ebrey's book looks mainly at middle class Chinese women, with a lot of anecdotes about individual women. Chung's book looks at women in the palace, from servants up to the empress. Both books make excellent use of primary sources -- in particular, I enjoyed Ebrey's use of funerary epitaphs to deduce information about women's education in the Song dynasty.

While I'm afraid I don't have any recommendations on men's history of the Song, these books are two of the main ones available about Song dynasty women!

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