I'm curious, I can't seem to find an article on it but I remember reading something that historians being the nerds that they are (love you all)

Tend to use the "they were roommates" so there is no disputing with other historians and arguing over modern labels.

If one historian wants to say the person of interest was Bi-sexual and another wants to argue lesbian or sapiosexual, etc then you can bypass all arguments by not making any assumptions, sticking to the hard truth and just say roommates and "lovers" if you are confident enough about letters between them.

Obviously this would also naturally be an issue of sex education and feminism to boot. But I remember there was reasoning on way it's still done this way barring extreme evidence even in college curriculum and even in liberal source materials.

So Question #1 ) Longshot : anyone remember reading something like that or better at googlefu to help find it?

Question #2) Is there anything someone could point me to for like ethics of historians or something like it where it would support what I'm remembering? Basically that it's bad form to presume sexuality?